Tying herself in knotsby Anna Blundy / June 19, 2013 / Leave a comment
Published in July 2013 issue of Prospect Magazine
My patient came into the room and threw herself into the seat by the customary box of tissues. “I think there’s something wrong with my legs,” she said. She stretched her legs out in front of her so I had to look at them. “There isn’t,” I wanted to say, but didn’t. “Sometimes they feel tingly and numb. But it might be in my head,” she said.
I have been seeing her for more than a year now as part of my two-year training to become a psychotherapist. In our early sessions she used to stamp her feet up and down, as though desperately trying to run away but unfortunately finding herself tied to the chair. Later she began to cross her legs and twist one foot behind the other. “She is tying herself in knots,” my supervisor said when I presented her to the clinical seminar. (Every session with a patient is written up and discussed).
Most of us are aware that we pick at our fingers, chew our lips or eat too much or too little when we are anxious or unhappy; that we fidget when uncomfortable and need to leave the room when the tension is unbearable, but it is always surprising in therapy just how literally problems are expressed by the body.
When I lie down on the couch myself, as I do for 50 minutes every weekday morning, I find myself suddenly unable to breathe until I start talking. I’ve wondered if it’s the climb up the stairs, too much coffee, anxiety about what I want to say today.