The internet is paying havoc with the way Chinese people interact with each otherby Yuan Ren / May 18, 2017 / Leave a comment
Published in June 2017 issue of Prospect Magazine
Dining out with a friend recently, I only realised that two people sitting opposite us were together when they got up to leave. For over half an hour they had appeared to be strangers: her taking selfies, him reading on his phone. When I pointed this out to my companion, he replied, “They probably just messaged each other to ask if they should head out.’”
In China, the act of “phubbing,” as it is known (a contraction of “phone-snubbing”) is far more noticeable—and definitely more acceptable—than in many western countries.
I’ve been severely phubbed many times. I dated someone who would start reading news or checking stocks whenever we sat down to eat. He’d perfected the dinner-phubbing pose of one hand holding chopsticks, the other scrolling his phone.
When I told a friend about the new “third wheel” ruining my dates, he said that at his school reunion the previous night, everyone was head down posting pictures and messaging friends on the app WeChat during dinner. “That’s just the way things go now,” he said.