This dreary November, our Lives writers seem to be wistful for the simple things in life, kindness, community and good food: Tilly Lawless cherishes a relationship where a language barrier leaves no room for overthinking, while Sheila Hancock is moved by a play with a protagonist who is gentle and good. Alice Garnett is envious of the Italian approach to La Dolce Vita after a holiday to Umbria, while Alice Goodman relishes the return of choirs to her parish.