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Men have an empathy problem—so let’s get boys reading fiction

As charities warn of a crisis in men's health, building empathy among men of all ages is more crucial than ever. One way to do that? Reading fiction

by Sarah Manavis / August 30, 2017 / Leave a comment
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Published in October 2017 issue of Prospect Magazine

I come from a family of chronic film criers. My mom is known for being “teary,” wailing into a towel at Bridges of Madison County and repeatedly weeping at Ever After. My little sister infamously cried at the first Ice Age movie when she thought the tiger had died. In the last month, I have pathetically sobbed at the final scene of Pirates of the Caribbean 3.

My tendency to cry so easily used to embarrass me; that I, and the other women in my family, would break down at the simplest, most predictable Hollywood plot lines. We’re “tender-hearted,” my mother used to say, which I used to read as code for being overly-sensitive. But what I realise now is that what we actually were, and what we really are, is empathetic. Even though we don’t know these (poorly-developed) characters or lived their fictitious plot-lines, we feel for their losses, cry over their heartbreaks and feel their feelings.

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  1. Carol Stobie
    August 30, 2017 at 19:23
    Excellent article. I can testify to the apparent impact (of reading a wide range of fiction) on my 11 year old's emotional intelligence, though I'm unsure whether reading every Harry Potter 8 times has multiplied his empathy levels eightfold.
  2. JimmyMack
    September 2, 2017 at 09:42
    This piece certainly fixed my yawn empathy. However, if we accept that men are broadly less empathetic than women (I don't), is this a good thing? I have brought up two girls. I work mainly with women. I have witnessed many times the particular, knowing, feminine brand of cruelty girls and women inflict on members of their own sex they don't like. Women know this about other women. They acknowledge it privately while paying lip-service to the publicly-prescribed 'aren't we women nicer' fiction this article plays to. Female cruelty lies behind the falsehood of 'sisterhood'. All women know that without a friend they are the defenceless prey of other women. Do I overstate and generalise? No more so than this article and a million 'problem with men' pieces like it.
  3. Babs
    September 13, 2017 at 16:57
    When women grouse about men's lack of "empathy", they're generally just whining because men don't focus on things that are stupid and trivial. They also tend to bang on about the importance of empathy as it applies to THEM, but not to the other women they taunt, abuse, harrass, undercut, and throw under the bus during any given day in the average school/workplace. I feel genuinely sorry for any hapless little boy unfortunate enough to have a mother screeching at him about his lack of empathy; perhaps that's why twenty-something males are calling themselves misogynists and pretending to be Nazis.
  4. Kevin
    September 14, 2017 at 23:37
    Lisa Barrett wrote an interesting article in Nautil on how to increase emotional intelligence. Learning new words for different emotions, and knowing the different subtleties between each word actually increases emotional intelligence. This might explain why reading fiction increases our EM, the author uses words we're not familiar to convey an emotion, and then, through the events happening in the story, presents us an example of that emotion in work.

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