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Dear Wilhemina

Prospect’s agony aunt responds to readers’ problems

By Wilhemina   September 2009


Dear Wilhemina

I’m having an affair with a married man. We’ve known each other socially for a few years, but now we seem to be falling in love. I am struggling with the moral dimension and in particular how I square this with what has always been my militant feminism. How can I reconcile what I’m doing to another woman—whom I quite like—with my political stance?

Laura K

Dear Laura K

What you express is both familiar and quaint nowadays. The idea that a “good” feminist would refrain from having an…

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