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Dear Wilhemina: Is it selfish to adopt a child?

Prospect’s agony aunt responds to readers’ problems

By Wilhemina   April 2010

Is it selfish to adopt a child?

Dear Wilhemina My husband and I have two children, aged ten and 13. As life is going pretty well, we’re considering something that we’ve always wanted to do: adopting a child. We have the financial means as well as the emotional resources. We haven’t yet talked about the idea with our children, but have mentioned it to a few close friends and family—all of whom have been at best lukewarm and at worst hostile. They say it would disrupt our family life and would be unfair to our existing children. Are we being…

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