Men need to stop being scared to express their masculinity in the 21st centuryby Serena Kutchinsky / May 27, 2015 / Leave a comment
This is the text of a talk I gave on Saturday 23rd May at the How The Light Gets In festival in Hay-on-Wye on a panel with the feminist and author Julie Bindel, the Labour Mp and mayoral candidate Diane Abbott, and the former editor of the Erotic Review Rowan Pelling. My argument is that real man is a necessary and evolutionary concept which could help counter the notion of a “crisis of masculinity” which Diane Abbott highlighted in a speech to the think tank Demos in 2013 when she was Shadow Public Health Minister.
Real man is alive and kicking a football around the fringes of modern society. He’s there latent within even the most metrosexual of males, after all who can forget Ed Miliband adopting an Arnie-like swagger when uttering the immortal words “hell yeah”. Yes, today’s real man uses more hair products, cries at the odd rom com and respects the right of women to assert ourselves in the boardroom and bedroom like never before, but personally I see this as proof of ‘real man’s’ longevity. Real man is an evolutionary concept, adapting to fit a society where gender equality increasingly is a key focus. But, for him to fully emerge from his sensitive new man shell, feminists need to stop blaming him for the sexist sins of his fathers.
Was there really some golden age of society where gender roles were clearly defined, everyone instinctively knew their place, there was full employment and men’s emotional lives were uncomplicated? T…