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Irritations: the essence of married love

"There’s nothing so dangerous in a marriage as attempting to bring an outside perspective to bear"

By Sam Leith   March 2016

What is the essence of married love? It’s the little things, right? Not the kindnesses you share—rather, the little irritations that, like the grit in the proverbial oyster, will eventually turn into pearls. I’ve been thinking about this since we had some friends to lunch the other day, and I made a foolish intervention.

My ever-loving wife had, very helpfully, stirred herself from among the roast beef and potatoes and half-empty goblets of wine and had started the washing up. A few minutes into this…

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