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Dear Wilhemina

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By Wilhemina   September 2010

What does it mean to be engaged?

Dear Wilhemina

A couple of months ago my partner of two years asked me to marry him. I said yes and we are now engaged. In most respects, this new status hasn’t changed anything—we are in no hurry to get married and so haven’t set a date for the wedding yet. However, I am not enjoying the label “engaged” at all. In theory it’s romantic, but I’m not sure what it involves. Is the same sort of fidelity implied as in marriage? Or is it a “lead-up” to a full commitment? How do…

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