Sara Davidson visited a Tantric sex seminar in Santa Monica, sceptical about the G spot, the vaginal orgasm, and female ejaculation. Now she is not so sure. This piece is extracted from a longer report in the US magazine Mirabellaby Sara Davidson / April 20, 1997 / Leave a comment
It is friday night and I am standing in the Wilshire room of the Sheraton Miramar in Santa Monica, registering for a workshop in Tantric sex. A friend I have known for 20 years, who urged me to do this waves and walks across the room. As I pin on my name tag, he says he has to go out of town in the morning. “I might be back Sunday. What I’ll miss is the stuff about sacred spot massage. You know, G spot?”
I look at him quizzically.
“Vaginal orgasm,” he says.
“Oh, come on,” I say. “Vaginal orgasms don’t exist. We settled that 25 years ago.”
He smiles and looks away. A bell rings and about 90 people, nervous, curious, take seats on the thick brown carpet. I had been hearing about this workshop given by Charles and Caroline Muir of Hawaii for 10 years and the journalist in me was intrigued. I had shown the brochure to my boyfriend, Richard, a cowboy artist who had never taken a workshop of any kind. We had been enjoying the best sexual relationship of our lives, and I thought what I knew about female sexuality was state of the art. I had gone to Berkeley in the 1960s, taken part in love-ins and written a book, Loose Change, chronicling the 1960s and the sexual revolution. Still, Richard and I had been together three years, we had fallen into certain rituals, and, as he put it, “How can you ever know too much about sex?”
The participants, who ranged from their 20s to their 70s, were accountants, doctors, musicians, filmmakers, and 22 of them were single. We all waited, then Charles and Caroline walked on to the dais and sat on pillows. Charles was tall and slim, with pale skin and dark curly hair. Caroline was blond, full-breasted, and moved with catlike grace. They wore matching shirts and pants and no shoes. They were, respectively, 49 and 53; both looked younger.
Charles said that Tantra was a tradition that began in India in 3000 BC. “It was a way of life that included exercises for the body, breathing, meditation, music, art, and practices for making sex sacred.” Caroline spoke, in a surprisingly deep voice. “We’re going to give you information that will make you a better lover, a sexual healer.”
Charles said the names we have for…