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Every time a friend succeeds…

By Tom Chatfield  

…I die a little, wrote Gore Vidal. And it’s painfully true that others’ success can be the hardest thing to bear. We measure our status in the world against our friends’, and their spectacular elevation can be deeply unsettling—and doubly traumatic because we don’t want to resent them, but can’t quite manage not to

Of course, it’s much easier to be delighted by friends’ quiet successes than by their loud ones. Warm hearts and genuine smiles come naturally enough at weddings, christenings, birthdays or anniversaries—but less so at book launches, prize acceptances or the appearance of fawning puffs in the…

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