I'm a transgender woman—and having a clearly defined identity helpsby Abigail Maxwell / April 26, 2016 / Leave a comment
I was at a party at the weekend, sitting in my friend’s garden in the sunshine, when Cassie, who is four, asked, “Is that a boy?” I have a stock answer to that question: “Some would say yes, some would say no. I say, ‘I am Abigail.’” Before I could say it, her father snatched her away. I said that I wanted to explain and he replied, “I told her there are only girls here.” But I didn’t want her to get the conventional answer, but one she could challenge. “I would not want to interfere with your upbringing of your daughter,” I shouted, weakly, across the garden.
In her article, Lionel Shriver argues that gender identity and therefore the trans movement depend on stereotypes. Yes, of course, not every girl who plays football or every boy who does ballet is trans. Qualities thought “masculine” or “feminine” co-exist in all people—nobody believes there is a great gulf fixed between the two, even if most people can discern broad trends.